By Tulsi, Bollywood.com News Network
Well, duh! You Bollywood-lovers must know that the epic beauty Sharmila Tagore too fell in love, dated, and eventually got married to a popular cricketer.
She too attended his matches and got a lot of unnecessary criticism and blame while she was simply being a support to Mansoor Ali Khan!
You’ve got to hear what she says: “I can’t say my circumstances were exactly the same. Because in those days(when I was dating Pataudi) girlfriends and wives were not allowed to accompany cricketers and watch cricket matches. But I did go to England to watch him, though I couldn’t go to watch him in Australia. It’s really up to the individual what he or she wants to do. No one is distracting anyone by being there for a loved one. Look at the crowds! They are so distracting, with their constant clapping, screaming and shouting. But, once a player out there his concentration is absolute. These are not amateurs we’re talking about. They know how to conduct themselves.”
She shares her personal experience: “One one or two occasions it was believed that I was somehow responsible for his poor performance. It is widely believed that if you are an actor or a cricketer from a privileged background then you’re pampered spoiled and an attention seeker. So, it was believed that I’d say things like. ‘Oh if you’re playing tomorrow, let’s go out today.’ As if it was all about me and not the game of cricket. As if I didn’t understand the gravity of the the game. These are are perceptions. One shouldn’t allow them to ruin your happiness. If one wants to go watch someone close to oneself play, then one should do so.”
“There was no social media, no Twitter to condemn you. I think I had to face less hostility. Now, you’ve people threatening to stone one’s home. That’s very wrong. This is the problem. There is a flip side to every fan. They love you and they hate you. I am not choosing the fans. They are choosing me. One day they say good things about me. The next day they start picking on you for the very things they loved you for. But in the long run, it all evens out. Once you enter retirement, they only remember good things about you.”
She also has some advice for Anushka: “I’ve to say, I’ve been through this kind of pendulum swing in public perception. As an actor, you are adored one day, hated the next. Suddenly they go off you. If you remember when Sachin Tendulkar was not making runs his fans were upset. Then when he began making runs they all came back. Such temporary changes in the public’s mood are only expected. One individual can’t take on the mob. So, one has to just stay calm and wait for the storm to pass. It’s not an Indian phenomenon. It happens everywhere. It’s the mature versus the immature.”
Adding to this great advice: “We just have to concentrate on our work and believe in what we’re doing. The crisis will pass. Anyone in the public eye has to face bricks and roses. It’s up to the individual to decide whether a loved one’s presence distracts or comforts him.”
Isn’t Anushka lucky to have someone so iconic, famous, and very mature and senior, who has been there and done that, to share her experience with her and the rest of the country?
Basically what she is trying to say is: “I feel you, babe! Just chill out!”